- The significance of carrying out child sex education
- Sex education is suitable for a few years
- Seven common problems in child sex education
- Child sex education should distinguish age groups
- Misunderstanding of child sex education
The significance of carrying out child sex education
Child sex education is a socialization process for educators on sexual science, sexual ethics and sexual civilization education.
Sex education is not just about reading a book, listening to a lecture or watching a video, but an education system project involving the family, the school and the whole society. It is also a re-socialization process that continues to grow with the age of the educated.
Help the child to identify with his or her gender, stipulate his or her gender role behaviour and emotional response according to gender, and do not adopt a simple reprimand or deceitful attitude towards the child’s display of nakedness and genitals, not only to teach ugliness, but also to be unpopular And conceal. Parents can tell the difference between the sex organs of boys and girls and “Where am I from?”, and don’t have to be ashamed. Let the children play and play with same-sex and heterosexual children of the same age, cultivate a natural and healthy attitude of children and their peers, and build a healthy personality.
Sex education is suitable for a few years
”Mom, what is the difference between a man and a woman?” “I have to be a man in a few years?”
For Xiao Jun, who is only in the second grade of elementary school this year, many “why” are haunting his mind, especially some gender issues. He always wants to understand. In order to thoroughly answer his son’s problems, his mother called her son into the bathroom and made a “show” to his son. To this end, the child’s father, Mr. Wang, was incredible, and the couple had a fight.
”I think that the child’s heart is a blank piece of paper. It is too early for him to know about the gender and the child’s growth.” Mr. Wang’s face is bitter.
When parents conduct correct health education for their children, sex education experts believe that the following aspects should be noted:
1, the right age
In theory, the gender differences between men and women, especially the first sexual characteristics, have no problem before the child’s puberty development. As far as the current social and cultural status quo is concerned, it is best to answer the difference between male and female first sexual characteristics before the age of five. . Sex education should be relatively advanced, but it cannot be separated from the child’s ability to understand.
2, the appropriate method
Before the child is 5 years old, he can speak with his parents’ body, but after 5 years old, it is more appropriate to use books, audio-visual materials and other methods.
3, the right content
Sex education for children, the content of each age group should be focused. Simple questions such as gender knowledge should be resolved before the age of 5. Before puberty, sexual physiology should be educated; when puberty is developed, sexual psychology and sexual ethics should be educated.
In short, sexual education for children must adhere to the principles of nature and appropriateness, and must not be deliberate, nor can they look at children’s problems from the perspective of adults.
Seven common problems in child sex education
Answering a child’s question about sex is one of the problems that many parents have headaches, even if they are confident parents will feel embarrassed and jealous. But parents should not evade this topic. By correctly answering the child’s problems, they can also help the child to establish a sexual health concept.
When will the child start to be curious about sex?
It is often difficult for parents to know when a child will start to be curious about sex, just as it is difficult for a child to know when a parent is sexually active. But in fact, even babies are curious about their bodies, which is very normal and healthy.
What kind of sexual activity does your child show?
Toddlers often touch their bodies while they are bare, such as when changing nappies or taking a shower. Since the children of this period are not sensible, they can only know from the parents’ reactions that their behaviour is correct. But parents should not scold them or make their children feel ashamed of their bodies. Some parents choose to deliberately ignore the child’s own physical contact behaviour, others will tell the child that these are their own private parts, parents should let the child know that they should use this behaviour as a kind of privacy. The only thing parents need to pay attention to is not to let this behaviour develop into masturbation.
Shouldn’t the child’s private part be used as a different name?
Parents should use the correct physiological structure name before the child is three years old. Although it sounds too scientific, it is not inappropriate to have the correct name before the child can name them. These names, including the penis, vagina, etc., should be properly infused to the child at the beginning and should not be concealed. In this way, the child can be treated with the right attitude and will not feel embarrassed.
What if the child asks where they came from?
This is determined by the age of the child. You can tell him by the belly that the child grew up from the egg in the mother’s womb and then came out of a special place called the vagina. There is no need to introduce the child to the process of making love, because the child is too small to understand. However, you can explain to them that when a man and a woman fall in love, they all want to be close to each other, and the man will put the sperm into the woman’s egg and the child will grow up inside. Children who are usually six years old will accept this statement, and some related books for children of this age are also very helpful. You should use a candid attitude when answering your child’s questions, so that you will find that your child will soon be satisfied with your answers.
What should I do when I see my child showing something to other children?
Children 3-6 years old like to play a doctor game. Many parents will react a lot when they see it, but loud scolding is not a good way to deal with this situation. Parents should not feel that this is a casual behaviour, because it may cause more serious consequences. Usually the appearance of parents is enough to block this game. You can guide your child to play another game. Then sit down and talk to the child well, explaining that although you understand that he may be interested in the body of other children, adults want them to be able to cover their bodies in public. In this way, the child can be prevented from being guilty. At the same time, this is also an appropriate age to tell them what is the right contact. You can tell your child that the body is their own, and they have the right to keep their privacy. If someone touches their body in a very strange or uncomfortable way, they should be called to stop immediately and tell their parents as soon as possible.
When should I start to stop my child from being naked at home?
Although the values of each family are different, the important concept of privacy is that every child should learn. Parents should add some restrictions as they do to other things, and explain them clearly to the child so that the child does not associate the sense of crime with privacy.
When should I start introducing menstruation to girls ?
Parents should introduce menstruation after the girl is 8 years old, and some children may get this information from school. Some related books are also helpful, but it is also very useful for mothers to share their personal experiences with their children, such as when to come to the first menstrual period and what the general feeling is.
Child sex education should distinguish age groups
Sex education for children depends on the age, but also the basic skills of communicating with children.
First, the child’s sexual questions should never be avoided.
Sexual science research has found that every child can grasp the gender under the guidance of parents when he is very young. Although he does not understand why he wants to distinguish each other, he has some degree of avoidance and distance to the opposite sex. Subconscious, so when the child has any sexual problems related to you, it is often a lot of determination. At this time, you should never refuse to say that this should not be a question for children, or He, this will only aggravate the child’s confusion, and is likely to turn curiosity into a psychological shadow, setting obstacles for future growth.
Second, master as much scientific knowledge as possible
Although the disciplines covered by sex science are extremely broad (physiology and pathology, medicine, sociology, psychology, ethics, etc.), everyone is unlikely to be an expert in this area, but as much as possible, some knowledge involved in this area is very necessary. Don’t want to escape because you don’t understand. You must know that sex education guides the child’s healthy growth, so if you pay more, your child will get more.
Third, don’t worry too much about scale issues
Most parents have this experience. The child’s problem is more than his age. Does it have more side effects? In fact, the child’s intellectual development has a layer of steps, and the problems raised in each age group are different. Once you understand, the child will never trace the source like a scientist. Three or four-year-old children may be satisfied with the answer that “the baby grows like a seed in the mother’s stomach”; the occasional masturbation of the 13-year-old boy will not cause serious problems to the body, and will certainly appease his incitement. In the heart, he will probably not ask you further about the way you masturbate.
Fourth, do some warning work in advance.
Premature contact with sexual behaviour will cause serious harm to both the child’s physical and psychological aspects. Therefore, it is necessary to promptly alert the child in daily life. For example, it is not friendly to infuse a young child with a heterosexual touch. For children who have entered adolescence, premature sexual contact with the opposite sex is likely to cause harm to the sexual organs, infect many diseases, and may be the future. The healthy growth has hidden dangers, and it can only accept healthy and civilized sex life after both physical and psychological aspects are mature; learning to cleanse itself is better than learning to use condoms.
Fifth, guide children to identify “true and false”
Nowadays, various media are mixed. Some descriptions of sexual behaviour often deviate from the purpose of science and replace it with simple sensory stimulation. When children are inaccessible to these things, don’t simply swear, but these descriptions should be The unscientific content, such as exaggeration and falsehood, is analysed to let the child know what is true science and health.
Misunderstanding of child sex education
1. My child is still young, still watching cartoons, still don’t understand “this”.
Expert analysis: When children are small, it is the time to conduct sex education. At this time, parents can provide children with correct sexual knowledge, which can prevent children from blindly looking for negative sexual information. Even if they see negative sexual information, children can be treated correctly.
When the child “understands this”, the parents can only “reinforce the dead”.
2. My child is not interested in sex.
Expert analysis: When entering adolescent children, sexual physiology must develop, and sexual psychology must appear. Children who are not interested in sex in front of their parents are a sign of poor communication between the two sides. That is, the parent’s attitude towards sex makes the child think that there is no common language with the parents on this issue.
3. I feel that my child can come naturally, because we have come this way.
Expert analysis: This is a common predicament for parents, and it is actually an escape from sex education. Only when children are sexually educated can they know if they have any problems.
Many parents judge whether there is a problem with the academic achievement, but ignore the child’s psychological growth.
4. My child’s living environment is very simple. There is no need for him or her to know this.
Expert analysis: In an era when information is so open, it is only the parents’ wishful thinking that parents should never touch sexual information. Parents should take the initiative to provide correct guidance.
5, the school has sex education courses, parents are inconvenient to talk to children.
Expert analysis: The best sex education is opportunity education, which is best when children have sex-related confusion, and such opportunities often occur at home, depending on the parents’ careful observation. Pushing sex education to schools is a matter of shirking responsibility.
6. Let the child know the details of sex and may induce the child to imitate.
Expert analysis: It is precisely the behaviour and details that unveil the mysterious veil of the nature of sex, dilute the child’s curiosity about sex, and avoid the blind attempt of the child.