We explain what is falling in love and what effects it has on people. Characteristics and symptoms. Factors involved.
What is falling in love?
Falling in love is an emotional state that is characterized by the joy and strong attraction of one person to another . This feeling manifests itself in individuals in such a way that they feel they can share all kinds of events in their lives.
The infatuation, from the biological and biochemical point, has its origin in the cerebral cortex , continuing its journey through the endocrine system and secreting dopamine, a hormone responsible for generating changes in the hypothalamus whose manifestation is purely physiological.
Being in love manifests itself in the communication of emotions and gestures , in a motor, sexual, instinctive, and intellectual way. These gestures of what we talked about are based on physical contact, such as looking at each other, talking, touching and caressing each other.
There are two types of crushes, the external and the internal. External infatuation consists of falling in love with what one appreciates with the view, that is, the physical aspect of the other person . The internal infatuation arises when one feels said feeling for how the individual is inside, their feelings.
Characteristics and symptoms of falling in love
- Desire for physical contact : Strong yearning for intimacy and physical contact with the person, be it a hug, a kiss, a caress and even desires for sexual relations.
- Desire of reciprocity : Strong desire that the other individual is also in love with the person. It is a desire for reciprocity.
- Fear of rejection : They have a strong fear of being rejected by the other person.
- Lack of concentration : The concentration is lost and carelessness occurs in everyday situations.
- Regular thoughts about the other person : Intenseregular thinking of the person you are in love with.
- Nerves and anxiety : In the presence of the subject, a person in love manifests nerves, acceleration of the heart, stuttering, and so on.
- Interest in the tastes of the other person : Attraction towards the same tastes that the other person has.
- Attention centered on the other person : Complete attention of the person towards the other individual.
- Just see the positive of the other person : Observe only the positive characteristics of the subject and without admitting the negative characteristics.
According to the researcher Yela, in an article published in 2002, a large number of scientists studying society have managed to create various models of theories and hypotheses that explain and describe the crush thoroughly.
In the first instance, the process of falling in love begins with a physical look towards the person, different from the others. Second, the subject feels a strong personal attraction that is strongly present when it is suspected that the other person feels the same, is physically and personally attracted to the other subject, that is, that the attraction is reciprocal.
Factors involved in falling in love
- PSIQ uiatría : At least in the first stage of the crush, this feeling is a chemical reaction. Our brain produces a substance called phenylethylamine, whose function is to secrete dopamine, giving our body effects similar to those of amphetamines, producing a state of joy, excitement and natural euphoria by having the presence of our lover.
- Genetics : It is in our genetics, as human beings (animals) we keep in mind the instinct of reproduction and the continuation of the species.
There are differences between being in love and loving the other person, Erich Fromm explains it to us in his book «The Art of Love». Fromm, states that when we fall in love, we are in love with the physical form of the person, dropping what separates us from others, which makes us not attracted to anyone else. By sharing with our chosen person our deepest thoughts and feelings, we feel that we have been able to make a connection with someone.
Now, this feeling that generates an intense pleasure, even changing the chemical composition of our body, produces substances called endorphins. This substance is responsible for constantly being in a good mood, with a radiant smile all day, happy and stunned. While we are in love, we feel that we are next to the most wonderful person in the universe , the most perfect creation. Fromm states that in reality, we begin to love when we stop being in love .
How is this possible? Loving takes time , you need to know the other person in depth, to know both good and bad, defects and virtues. Despite this, falling in love is a beautiful feeling, although the feeling only lasts at the beginning of a relationship. There are people who consider themselves addicted to falling in love. These begin a relationship and at the end of the stage of falling in love and visualize defects, they end it.
When someone really loves, he accepts the other person as a whole , with his faults and his failures. A person in love tries to make the other better, helping her overcome the negative aspects of her personality.